In a nation where sex is a taboo subject, in a land of patriarchy and gender discrimination, a growing number of Indians are turning to the world of femdom. It’s a way for women to gain more control over their partners and sexual acts.
It’s called BDSM – Bondage, Discipline, Domination and Submission. It thrives on sado-masochism, which requires sexual abuse – both physical and mental.
Foot worship and enslavement
A new fad among BDSM clients in the Indian subcontinent is foot worship and enslavement. While the fetish itself is relatively recent, a few dedicated mistresses have taken it upon themselves to make their passion a full-time job. It’s no wonder that some of these kink-loving ladies have their own Twitter account and Instagram accounts to boot!
Several of the women in the business boast of being able to wrangle the human phallus at least once or twice. It is not uncommon for a mistress to travel across the country to sate her clientele, which includes some very tall and impressive individuals. A hefty fee is involved, but the rewards are well worth the risk. A few even have a small army of “sisters” to help them out. The best part? Unlike some other perversions, there is no downside to getting your man’s bottom tickled. The icing on the cake is that a few are even willing to pay top dollar for the privilege! In fact, a few of these girls are so good at their craft that a quick Google search can yield results from the kilobyte to the tenth degree.
BDSM
BDSM is a broad term that encompasses various sexual and roleplaying activities involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. The practices are often erotic and can be associated with spirituality, leisure, and ritual. BDSM can be practiced by men and women of all ages, including adolescents.
A variety of BDSM practices are performed to achieve emotional release and pleasure, but not all of them have the same effect. Some, such as strappado with a rope and a spreader bar, cause immobilization and pain.
For many kinksters, BDSM is a way to escape from their everyday lives and explore something new. It also gives them a sense of community, says Javay Frye-Nekrasova, MEd, a certified sex educator for Lovehoney.
But a BDSM experience can also be a very intense emotional rollercoaster. That’s why it’s important to incorporate aftercare into your play, Frye-Nekrasova says. Having an aftercare plan in place can help you avoid losing your balance from an emotional high.
In fact, coming down from an extreme experience like BDSM can feel like crashing from a drug. To prevent “freakouts,” partners should talk through each other’s psychological reactions and triggers before the session, Frye-Nekrasova notes.
Another way to avoid emotional lows is to have a good relationship with your partner. “It’s important to get a lot of feedback from your partner about what they like and don’t like about your play,” Frye-Nekrasova explains. This can help you know if your partner is in a place where they want to end the play early or continue it until both of you are satisfied.
Finally, BDSM can also be a way for you to explore your feelings about your sexuality or relationships. Some kinksters find that these experiences can be very therapeutic, especially if they’re done regularly and with consenting adults.
In fact, a growing number of studies have shown that people who practise BDSM experience positive psychological outcomes. These include increased self-esteem, decreased stress levels and a reduced aversion to risk. Moreover, BDSM is associated with improved concentration and decision-making skills. It has also been shown to increase flow, a mental state where people experience an exhilarating feeling of being in the moment, characterized by feelings of calmness and ease.
Dominatrixes
In BDSM, dominatrixes take the dominant role and control their submissive partners in sexual ways. They may also use other forms of erotic humiliation and punishment.
Dominatrixes can be either professional or non-professional, and they are often hired to perform BDSM for pay (pro-domme) or as part of a kinky sexual relationship. Their services may include urethral sounding, body manipulation, and other techniques.
These professionals are trained and educated in BDSM techniques that satisfy their clients’ desires and kinks. They are experienced at using pain to make their masochistic, submissive client cry out in pleasure.
They also know safe, ethical, and psychologically sound ways to slap, flog, spank, choke, or whip their clients. Some even have degrees in fields such as psychology and public health.
A dominatrix can be a kinky woman or a sexy man, but most of them are women who have taken up the femdom fetish. They can be very obedient, intelligent, and horny.
Unlike some other forms of sex, dominatrixes are paid for their work. Many develop payment plans where they receive an agreed-upon salary each month from their clients.
Some dominatrixes provide their services through social media platforms, where they post pictures and videos of themselves with their clients. Others offer their services in person, where they will visit a client’s home or hotel room to meet them and perform domination on them.
These dominatrixes have access to their clients’ personal information and social media accounts, and they can threaten to use it against them if they don’t pay up. They may also use a client’s email account to spy on their activities or to send them messages that are offensive and revealing.
Most dom’s are very choosy about their submissive partners, as they want to find men who are kinky, intelligent, and obedient. They will also need to be able to afford their lifestyle, which includes paying for corsets, ropes, cuffs, and other equipment needed for their BDSM sessions.
The job of a dominatrix is not easy, but it’s rewarding. It can be a very empowering experience for both the dominatrix and her submissive partners, as well as for the mistress.