Are you seeking an exciting and intense form of femininity, then chastity could be for you. It can be both rewarding and enjoyable if you’re willing to put in some effort.
One common way to ensure chastity is using a device, commonly referred to as a cage or belt. These straps wrap around the penis and are typically secured with a key. Furthermore, these devices protect the submissive from orgasms or other forms of sexual penetration.
Getting Started
Once the decision to pursue chastity femdom has been made, it’s essential to get started on the right foot. This includes creating a chastity device, finding an appropriate lube and prepping for your first erotic ‘lock-up’ session.
Chastity devices come in a range of styles and types, such as simple lock-and-key cages to those that use Prince Albert piercings or deterrent “spikes” to prevent erections. Before investing in one, research your options and see which works best for your partner and relationship.
It may take your partner a few days to adjust to wearing the chastity device, so be patient and let him try on several types until he finds one that feels comfortable for both of you. If unsure which type to purchase, speak with an experienced male chastity specialist for guidance on selecting the ideal device for both of you.
During the initial lock-up phase, make sure he stays inside until his body has fully adjusted to the new chastity device. This is an essential step in indoctrinating him with your new lifestyle decision.
Once he’s become well-accustomed to wearing his chastity device, it is time for him to wear it longer. This is an important milestone in your relationship so make sure both of you enjoy this transition as much as possible.
Week One
Chastity Femdom can bring about many changes to your lifestyle. For some people, these can be positive and exciting changes; while for others, the transition may prove more challenging.
One of the first things you will notice is a shift in your approach towards sexual activity. When in a chastity cage, your focus becomes pleasing your keyholder/wife/girlfriend and you will do anything they ask of you.
Another thing you’ll likely experience during this first week of chastity is that your balls will get hard! This is an expected part of the process and completely normal.
However, if things do get tough while in the cage, make sure you always have a spare key with you so that you can unlock your device in case of an emergency.
You might now find it easier to sleep at night since you are used to the cage and have stopped worrying about jerking off or watching porn. This is great as now you have more time for other activities!
Week Two
The second week of chastity femdom can be the most challenging. This is normal and your body is going through various changes during this time.
It can take some getting used to wearing a cage, ring and/or harness around your genital area. While these sensations may take some getting used to at first, with time they will fade and you will become much more comfortable.
Your first few days in chastity likely result in some skin rashes, cuts or scrapes on your penis. Furthermore, you may be feeling quite frustrated by all of this.
Never give in! Your partner will eventually ask when he can have sexual release; this shows that he has given up control and given over to you. Don’t give in!
Your duty as the leader is to remain firm. You don’t want him to lose trust in you.
It may be tempting to give in, especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed and have already gone through several trial days, but if you want the benefits of chastity, then you must remain strong. This battle many submissives face but never truly overcome unless they make a conscious choice to do so.
Week Three
On your third week of chastity femdom, it is time to address your hygiene needs. Remember, taking off the device while taking a shower can be tricky without an ergonomic showerhead (although some cages make this easier).
After your shower, be sure to thoroughly wash the cage with a toothbrush or small-area cleaner. Additionally, using an inexpensive plastic cup can help direct water where it belongs – such as in crevices and nooks.
Once you’re finished with this step, be sure to rinse it off thoroughly with soap and water. Doing so is especially essential if you plan on wearing your device for an extended period of time.
You could also tie some ribbon or string around the cage to help reduce any tugging on the device that may be uncomfortable for you right now. This will give you a chance to see how it fits and if any adjustments need to be made.
This is an ideal opportunity to practice your chastity rituals. For a more sensual touch, incorporate some cute D/s elements into the mix as well.
Week Four
After four weeks of chastity training, you should feel confident wearing your device all day for at least two hours each time. This is a sign that it’s becoming more acclimated to you – and that you’re getting used to the cravings and new experiences associated with wearing it every day.
Twice a week, be sure to remove your chastity device for a shower. Even if you only have seconds spare, make sure it’s fully removed (we suggest focusing on hygiene issues and using extra soap).
It is essential to store your chastity cage in an accessible area during shower time. Doing so will prevent having to reuse a cage in the future and guarantee its cleanliness remains at its highest level.
While in the shower, take some time to speak with someone about how chastity is affecting you. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unmotivated, sharing this information can help keep you on track.
You may want to consider your work clothes when your device is turned on – and whether they will look professional. If nothing seems suitable, switching your chastity cage type or investing in some new underwear for work could be beneficial.
Week Five
This week, Jonathan discovers the full brunt of a dominant mistress’ desires. She trains him hard, teases and denies him, and pushes him to the brink of both physical and psychological discomfort.
No matter if you’re just playing femdom games in the bedroom or live a 24/7 femdom lifestyle, punishment is an integral element of any femdom scene. From spitting to golden showers, punishment serves to remind your submissive partner that you are in charge.
One way to maintain control over your submissive is through bathroom control. This could involve making him take a shower when he doesn’t listen or making him wear a chastity belt when something wrong occurs.
This is an effective way to demonstrate that you’re the boss and ready to take control of his life. Additionally, this demonstrates your desire for him to obey your wishes in order to fully enjoy his femininity.
Today, let’s continue our male chastity training plan and ensure you can wear your cage to work. To do this, make sure your work attire conceals the device well – this may require some changes in wardrobe or shopping for appropriate work attire.
Week Six
On your sixth week of chastity femdom, it is essential that you meet all of your hygiene requirements while wearing your male chastity cage. That means fully unlocking yourself every week and cleaning off the cage before taking a shower.
Chastity slaves face a unique set of challenges every day, so it’s important to prioritize yourself. Additionally, make sure you check in with your support people or chastity board so you can share your stories and gain insight into other’s experiences. This will help ensure you remain positive throughout this trying time.
You should always carry a spare key with you during this training period, just in case something unexpectedly occurs and requires access to your male chastity cage. Doing so will make accessing it much simpler and help avoid potential injuries. If you’re having trouble sleeping in your cage, try attaching ribbon or string to it so it doesn’t tug too hard on your body.