Femdom Bondage (BDSM Play) is an intimate act in which one partner takes control over another using pain-inflicting pleasure to assert her dominance over them.
Femdom can be daunting at first, so take it slowly. Once comfortable with femdom, consider adding toys related to Body Dynamic Self-Massage such as strapons for pegging or small leather whips to increase its intensity level!
Sex Toys
Femdom bondage is an effective way of exerting dominion over your submissive. This practice involves sexual dominance by an established female, which can take many forms; dominatrix toys such as cuffs, floggers and paddles may all help reinforce dominance over submissives.
These toys can be used for many different purposes, from impact play and nipple torture to pleasure-based sensory stimulation. Most are constructed from silicone but some also come equipped with pleasurable textures like ribs or bumps that stimulate vaginal and anus nerves.
Dildos are one of the most versatile sex toys, being used both for pegging and partnered sex. Typically phallic in shape and designed to penetrate vaginal, anus, or oral areas; many models feature texturised surfaces to increase penetration sensation.
Strap-ons are another versatile sex toy that can be used both partnered sex and pegging, as they attach directly to the body like an artificial penis and may be compatible with harnesses.
Nipple clamps are another versatile toy that can be used both for stimulating and torturing the nipple. They can be worn over or around the neck and some can even penetrate it!
Cock cages are another highly popular femdom toy, and can come in all sorts of designs and sizes. Some feature cute locks with keys for locking or more extreme designs with spiked rings or ball dividers.
Your goals may dictate which cages to purchase; for instance, if you plan on attaching one directly to a submissive’s collar and detaching it easily later without disassembling her body completely, consider investing in multiple units that allow easy unhooking without taking her body with it.
Femdoms may use blindfolds as another means to keep their submissives’ eyes closed during punishment or sexual play, keeping their submissives’ eyes from being scratched by harsh fabrics that might scratch. Blindfolds designed specifically for use in BDSM situations should have soft fabrics which won’t scratch their eyes while being worn over them.
Impact Play
Impact play (also referred to as percussion) refers to any form of physical contact where one individual hits another in mutually agreed-upon ways and areas. This could range from flogging and whipping, riding crops paddles and canes being used among other methods of physical contact.
Many kinksters enjoy impact play as it offers a safe and satisfying way of experiencing pain for the sake of pleasure. However, it is essential that participants be cautious when engaging in this form of sexual activity.
Communication with your partner and understanding their boundaries before starting is of utmost importance, to avoid entering situations that could require emergency responses.
If you’re uncertain of your partner’s comfort with physical contact such as slapping their face or genitals, start off small. Try overhand, underhand and side-to-side swings before deciding to proceed further.
If you want to add some spice and intensity to your bedroom play, a leather paddle is an effective way to do just that. Not only will it offer intense sensations but can also serve as an important means for building rapport with your partner.
Leather paddles can be purchased easily at most local kink supply stores or online for relatively cheap. There is an assortment of sizes to suit you and your partner perfectly, enabling you to find one that’s just the right fit.
Floggers can be an effective tool for impact play, yet they do come with their own set of risks. Their handle is typically wrapped in leather, which may become painful with excessive force when striking it, and their tail typically contains different materials which affect how intensely it feels when hit.
Wide implements like paddles or floggers tend to produce dull, tingly sensations; narrow implements like canes or riding crops often produce sharp and stingy feelings. Slapping can add another interesting layer to impact play experiences.
Once you are ready to advance to the next level, consider selecting and mastering a slapping implement. Slaps can be great fun and are an effective way of communicating power dynamics and control over your partner – but be wary; they may cause serious pain! Start small and gradually increase their intensity over time.
Humiliation
Humiliation is both psychological and sexual phenomenon. It may occur as consensual or abusive erotic humiliation, as well as emotional arousal.
Experience of abuse can have devastating repercussions for an individual’s sense of self and sense of powerlessness, potentially leading to mental illness and even leading to death.
Dishonor is often experienced with the intention of subjugating or placing someone in an inferior social status or place; such acts of humiliation often accompany verbal abuse and/or physical punishments.
humiliation often results in depression and anxiety that lasts long-term, sometimes manifesting itself with severe posttraumatic stress disorder symptoms (PTSD).
Disgrace can have different degrees of an effect on an individual. This will depend on factors like its nature and degree of public attention as well as individual personality characteristics.
Mental illnesses have the power to impede daily life for an individual in many ways – impacting work, family life, social interactions and romantic relationships alike.
And humiliation can impede a person from making legitimate claims to status within their community of humiliation. When someone is denied their right to assert their status, that loss inevitably becomes eligible grounds for counterclaims against that individual or institution.
As a result, an individual’s social standing and sense of powerlessness become severely diminished, often leading to intense and often debilitating feelings of anger, resentment and bitterness.
Shock can also lead to anger, violence and even death; furthermore it has been implicated as a key contributor in developing various psychological and behavioral disorders.
There are various methods you can use to humiliate your submissive, from verbal abuse and physical punishments, to toys related to Body Dysmorphic Spectrum Disorder (BDSM), such as BDSM toys. The key is finding one that meets their needs and interests best; remembering pain thresholds are typically quite fragile so do not go too far off track until you understand their tolerance levels.
Financial Domination
Financial Domination, commonly referred to as Findom, is an age-old BDSM fetish in which submissives (cash piggy, finsub, human ATM or paypig) give gifts and money to their dominant woman (dome, findomme/findom goddess money domme mistress or cash master). Financial Domination has long been popular within BDSM communities.
Traditionally, male dominators have held this type of relationship. But lately more and more women are taking on this role as well; one 26-year-old Sydney resident known by Lucky Deville reports making as much as $3,000 weekly from taking control of clients’ bank accounts through financial dominatrix work.
Fin Doms are not simple tasks – and require plenty of thought and planning in order to find success in their profession. Many devoted Fin Doms spend years honing their craft, while remaining perceptive enough to identify each client’s individual psychological triggers.
As such, it can be easy to go overboard. Therefore, the financial dom must strive to balance her needs with those of the subordinate, while still managing client expectations.
Submissives often lack enough money for living expenses and may feel insecure about their finances; to make sure the relationship stays harmonious it’s wise to discuss potential concerns before engaging in this form of play.
Establish a financial allowance for your relationship so that the submissive doesn’t feel they need to earn their own money – this will remove much of the back-and-forth that can become part of this fetish.
Although this might seem like a good plan, it’s essential that both partners do not lose emotional investment in the relationship. Resentment or regret could arise in such moments; so having an open and honest discussion about any problems should be paramount.
Financial dominance may be an appealing fantasy for slaves, but it doesn’t work well for everyone. Some become so emotionally invested in the power of their financial master that they struggle with lack of income or needing to work too hard just to stay afloat.