Femdom (female domination) sex stories often range from gentle foot worship and light torture to more daring activities like strap-on sex (pegging), pain play, figging, smothering, toilet play, fisting and humiliation. This article will give you some ideas on how to utilize your submissive strap-on for some of these more intense interactions.
Getting Started
Strap ons are dildos attached to your erogenous area, such as your penis or vagina. There can be many reasons for doing this such as erectile dysfunction, pleasing your partner, or just wanting to try something different.
Before you get started with harness shopping, there are a few things you should know. Firstly, choose a harness that’s as comfortable as possible and fits your body shape and sex preferences. Furthermore, check the materials used in its construction; make sure it’s free from phthalates and antimicrobial if you don’t want any infections caused by it.
For instance, you should steer clear of metals such as copper and silver since they tend to stain or corrode over time. Furthermore, the type of adhesive used for holding on is an important factor; low-quality glue may not stay on the sex organ long enough for satisfying sensations.
Before you dive in, there are many factors to consider. But the best way to begin is by discussing your options with your partner and discovering what they’re most excited about. This will make the experience less stressful and much more enjoyable!
Preparing for the Pegging
Pegging can be an exciting and stimulating experience for many. It may be an expression of gender play, a sexual fantasy/kink/fetish, or simply an opportunity to revers the power dynamic in the bedroom.
However, as with any sex act, it’s essential to communicate and obtain consent beforehand. According to Jessica McBride, sex expert and therapist, having an agreement beforehand will make the pegging process less uncomfortable for both of you.
Experts advise communicating, setting boundaries and having an honest discussion about what gets you excited before beginning pegging. This is essential for both of you as it avoids hurting each other or being judged by your partner for how you act during the session.
Before beginning your pegging adventure, Zachary Zane of BoySlut and Promescent advises that it is essential to understand what is allowed and not allowed before initiating contact. For instance, never expect your partner to provide any assistance with prepping the anus beforehand.
According to experts at Sliquid Sassy, it’s best to prepare your body and anus before beginning pegging so as not to experience injury, pain or discomfort during the experience. This is especially important if you are new to anal sex or using an unfamiliar dildo.
Before your pegging session, it is recommended to do some anal prework so you can maximize the pleasure from the anal sensations during pegging. This could include teasing and lubricating your anus as well as making sure the dildo is positioned correctly so as not to accidentally hurt your partner’s anus during the process.
Finally, ensure you and your partner have fun during the pegging session. This could include kisses, hand jobs, oral, etc.
Preparing for pegging requires that you leave your partner in control, to prevent any unnecessary pain or injury during the session. You can do this by applying lube on both anus and dildo, or by letting them decide how deep they want penetration at the beginning of each peg session.
During the Pegging
Pegging, as its name implies, is a sexual act in which a cis woman wears a strap-on dildo and penetrates her partner’s anus. While there are many ways to enjoy anal sex, pegging has become one of the most popular options – Lovehoney reports that sales of strap-on dildos increased nearly 200% in 2020 alone.
Pegging may not be for everyone, but if you and your partner want to give it a try and see if you both enjoy it, why not? As long as it’s done with consent, getting pegged is no different from any other sex act.
Pegging someone can be an exhilarating experience for both partners. According to Joe Kort, PhD – a certified sex therapist in Royal Oak, Michigan – it provides plenty of pressure and warmth against your anus which feels amazing. Plus, Joe states that it can also be highly stimulating.
It’s also an effective way to deepen intimacy and bond. Since vulnerability is required from both partners, it provides a unique opportunity for them to get closer in new ways.
If you’re new to anal sex, start with finger play and other toys before working your way up to a dildo. This way, you and your partner can discuss what pace and angles feel best for them and which dildo shapes they prefer.
Be sure to lube your buttocks prior to pegging, as the anus doesn’t produce much lubrication of its own. Without lube, it could be painful for both of you if you decide to push things too far.
Once you feel confident with your dildo size, it’s time to practice anal penetration. The more practiced on anal sex you do beforehand, the smoother it will go when speaking with someone and taking photos together.
Power exchange and bondage can be an excellent opportunity to practice alpha acts, since the person doing the penetrating has control of what happens. If you’re new to power exchange, it can be an eye-opening experience; just make sure both parties communicate what expectations there are before beginning any pegging session so both of you are satisfied with the outcomes.
Post Pegging
Pegging is a sexual activity that involves using a strap-on harness to peg your partner. It’s an entertaining, sexual way to play with someone special and can also provide plenty of pleasure on its own.
As with most sexual activities, the best results come from communication and consent between both partners. Therefore, before beginning strapon femdom, it’s essential to have a conversation about whether your significant other would find this acceptable.
If you want to dive into strapon femdom, the best starting point is a kit that includes various dildos and harnesses. While these may be more costly, investing in these items will prove worthwhile if both you and your partner are serious about pegging.
Your choice of harness depends on your sex preferences, experience level, and body type. Generally speaking, opt for something that fits snugly without cutting into your skin.
McBride suggests sticking with brands with a reputation for high-quality products and excellent customer service. Some vendors even provide money-back guarantees, allowing you to feel secure about your purchase.
When selecting a strap-on, opt for one made from non-porous materials like silicone. This helps prevent bacteria from forming and makes cleaning much simpler.
It’s also wise to make sure the harness you select is comfortable and supports your anal region. A tight harness may make flexing difficult, while one that is too loose may cause discomfort or even harm.
McBride recommends having a few essential items in your pegging toolkit, in addition to the harness: plenty of lube and an adjustable dildo that fits correctly around your anal region. He notes that some dildos may be too short or long, causing pain or discomfort when used improperly.
If you’re unfamiliar with pegging, the process may seem intimidating. But it can be an excellent way to boost your sexual confidence and create new sexual fantasies for yourself and your partner.